Nobody is born with an instruction manual for life.Despite all the helpful advice from parents,teachers,each of us must make our own way in the world,doing the best we can and quite often getting things wrong.Messing up a few times isn't that big a deal.but if you get scared and try to avoid all mistakes by sticking with just few tried and true behaviours,you will miss out on most opportunities as well. Lots of people who will suffer from boredom at work are doing it to themselves.They are bored and frustrated because that is what their choices have caused them to be.They are stuck in ruts they dug for themselves while trying to avoid making mistakes and taking risks.People who never make mistakes never make anything else either.
It is the time pin down the habits that have become unconscious and are running your life for you,and get rid of them.Here is how to do it,
* Understand the truth about your habits:-
They always represent past successes.you have formed habitual,automatic behaviours because you once dealt with something successfully,tried the same response next time,and found it worked again.That's how habits grow and why they feel so useful.To get away from what is causing your unhappiness and work place blues,you must give up on many of your most fondly held habits and try new ways of thinking and acting.There truly isn't any lternative.Those
habits are going to block you from finding new and creative ideas,no learning.No learning,no access to successful change.
* Do something differently and see what happens:-
Even the most successful habits eventually lose their usefulness are events change the world and fresh response are called for.yet we cling on to them long after their benefit has gone.Past strategies are bound to fail sometime.Letting them become automatic habits that take the controls is a sure road to self-inflicted harm.
* Take some time out and have a detailed Look at Yourself:-
Discovering your unconscious habits can tough.For a start,they are unconscious,Right? Then they fight back.Ask anyone who has ever given up smoking if habits tough to break.You have got used to them and they are at least as addictive as nicotine.
* Be who you are:-
It is easy to assume that you always have to fit in to get on in the world;that you must conform to be liked and respected by others or face exclusion.Because most people want to please,they try to become what they believe others expect,even if it means forcing themselves to be the kind of person they aren't,deep down.
* You need to start by putting yourself first:-
You are unique.We are all unique,so saying this doesn't suggest that you are better than others or deserves more than they do.You need to put yourself first because on one else has as much interest in your life as you do,and because if you don't,no one else will.Putting others second means giving them their due respect,not ignoring them totally.Keeping up a self-image can be a burden.Hanging on to an inflated,unrealistic one is a curse.Give yourself a break.
* Slow down and let go:-
Most of us want to think ourselves as good,kind,intelligent and caring people.Sometimes that is true.Sometimes isn't.Reality is complex.We can't function at all without constant input and support from other people.Everything we have,everthing we have learned,come to us through someone else's hands.At our best,we pass on this borrowed existence to others,enhanced by our contribution.At our worst,we waste and squander it.So recognise that you are a rich mixture of thoughts and feelings that comes and goes,some useful,some not.There is no need to keep up a facade;no need to pretend;no need to fear of what you know to be true.
When you face your own truth,you will find it is an enormous relief.If you are maybe not as wonderful as you had like to be,you aren't nearly as bad as you fear either.The truth really does set you free;free to work on being better and to forgive yourself for being human;free to express your gratitude to others and recognise what you owe them;free to acknowledge your feelings without letting them dominate your life.Above all,you will be free to understand the truth of living:that much of what happens to you is no more than chance.It can't be avoided and is not your fault.There is no point in beating yourself up about it.
What is holding you in situations and action that no longer work for you often isn't inertia.It is the power of habitual ways of seeing the world and thinking above events.Until you can let go of those old,worn-out habits,they will continue to hold you prisoner.To stay in your comfort zone through mare habit,or to stay there because of irrational fears of what may lie outside,will condemn you to a life of frustration and regret.
There is a marvellous world out there.You will see,if you try it.
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